Over the last couple of days I’ve had a bit of a problem. I see all of these influencers sharing their lives, sharing selfies, and writing posts about themselves.
Because I am an aspiring blogger/influencer, I find myself looking at content in a new light. Could I write a post like this? Would anybody care? I dont think I’m interesting enough. Could I take a selfie like this? I’d feel silly. I’m not pretty enough.
Now, I’m not trying to say I want to copy someone’s work, but there are some tried and true posts that I’m sure you’ve seen that I’ve thought for a moment about writing. Maybe it was a “what’s in my bag” post, or a “top ten things you didn’t know about me” list.
How I discovered this issue
I’m going to call this problem the “I’m not interesting” dilemma. For me, it has stemmed from being a shy teenager who didn’t really go out anywhere, and was constantly talked over.
It has bled into my conscience that nothing I have to say is interesting. Nothing about me is worth telling people about.
Now that I have a platform where I can talk and talk and talk all I want, I don’t even know how to say things.
To add onto this problem (and I know you’ve heard it a bajillion times) the very same influencers I’m looking at make me feel like my life isn’t cool enough. The girls on instagram who take cute selfies make me feel like I’m not beautiful enough. Media tells me I have to be more.
But you aren’t here so I can make you my therapist. Although if you have suggestions, hit me up.
What makes me an “average girl”
I know that other people don’t think I am (although my boyfriend is pretty biased) but this dilemma is so ingrained in me that it’s a hard thought pattern to break.
I have also come to the realization that the “I’m not interesting” dilemma is part of the reason why I believe I’m so average.
Speaking of breaking…
How do I break this pattern? Or, because this isn’t a therapy session, how do YOU break this thought pattern?
First off, I want to tell you that nobody thinks you’re as boring as you do.
Think of it this way. You’re married to someone for thirty five years. You know that person like the back of your hand. And sometimes conversation gets a little boring. There are no longer huge discoveries to make about that person.
Now, this isn’t a perfect analogy because you (hopefully) don’t tell them they aren’t interesting all of the time, and you love that person. In an ideal world, you’d love yourself and wouldn’t put yourself down either.
Unfortunately that’s not our reality.
But you have known you for as longer than that, and I’m sure sometimes the inner monologue gets boring. There’s rarely something new to discover about yourself.
If you’re like me and like to trash talk yourself like I do, maybe you start believing other people don’t think you’re as boring as you think you are.
So what should you do?
I’d start by doing that thing that you haven’t been doing. For me, it’s writing those posts that I think nobody would care about.
I’ll tell you what the heck is in my purse. My keys, cards, some receipts, my cool as ice sunglasses, a can of soup, and a brochure from freshii that I doodled on.
See? That wasn’t so bad. Do I feel like I’m a more interesting person? Not really, but it comes with practice.
What scares you? Are you afraid of going on a date because you don’t think anyone would find you interesting enough to talk to?Are you holding yourself back from a project because there’s no way someone like you could pull it off?
Do it. Work towards it.
You never know. Maybe it’ll be a hit, maybe it’ll be a miss. But there are a couple of benefits when you give it a try.
What are the benefits, then?
There are no “what ifs” anymore.
You stop dreaming about it.
Say that I wrote an actual post about what’s in my bag and no one read it, and the people that did didn’t like it. Great! Now I’m not sitting around wondering if I’m the sort of person who can make a post like that. Then I move on.
You become more interesting the more experiences you have.
At least if it doesn’t work out, you’ll have new knowledge under your belt and maybe a new story to tell.
All of your experiences make you into the person you are, so if you feel boring, go out and have more experiences! The worst that can happen is that you don’t like the thing you tried.
I’d love to hear your thoughts on my thoughts! I am always learning and growing, and I find talking things out with my friends or on my blog always helps me gain a better understanding of what I’m feeling.
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